May 28, 2012

Being a man is something that’s been distorted along the years by society and the media. Being a man to the core is a lot different to what we assume a man need to be today.

In our modern society we’ve been fed with conflicting information on how to really assume the role as a man.

Men have become weaker. More emotional. More feminine.

Don’t believe me?

Look at your local gym. How many guys are fawning over themselves in front of the mirror nowadays?

Men who are applying moisturizers and complaining about one particular body feature being either smaller or bigger than the other.

Men who now believe it’s okay to get all emotional and cry, so when they don’t get what they want they’ll act out. Blaming society and others than themselves.

You think men in the 50′s were like this?

You think your grandfather and his grandfather were acting like brats?

We as men have lost our identity. But it’s not too late. It’s not too late to push out all the bullshit we’ve been fed and start being what real men are meant to be.

How to Stop being a Women and Start Being a Man

Men need to stop being women. Most men have assumed the role as women in a sense that they’ve become feminine. They’ve become emotional unstable in themselves. While women have become more masculine and more emotionally strong. The reason behind this role reversal was the on going push for females to get a career and get a well payed job. Women do so well nowadays that several earn more than men and some are even the provider in a family.

However, this hasn’t come without a cost. Women are almost forced to become more masculine because the business world is still dominated by men. If a women shows any sign of weakness. She will be targeted by her peers being males or females. Therefor she assumes the masculine role to fulfill her job duties and get a good career.

Most guys aren’t real men…

But she is still a woman. She is still feminine. Therefor she can not be fulfilled and be happy being masculine and assuming this role. She needs to be allowed to be a woman. She needs to experience her feminine energy and release it. This is why most career minded women are seamlessly unhappy, because they think they get fulfillment from their careers.

Here is where the problem arises. When a woman comes home from a stressful day at the job. Her head is stuck in the masculine role. She can’t just flip a switch and let her feminine side out again. This is when she needs a man to show her. She needs that opposite energy that male polarity to allow her to feel safe enough to allow herself to be a woman. But most guys aren’t real men. Most guys aren’t internally centered to bring that out of a woman. Only a real man knows how to and most guys aren’t real men.

In order to become a real man, you must accept the fact that you can’t take responsibility for everything that is out of your control (even women). You need to realize that you can only control your actions and that you have good intentions. The results does not matter in the end. You can only seek to influence but not control. A man is on his on path. He has his own goals in life. His own ambitions and purpose. That purpose should never be a woman.

A good analogy I like to use is “The Oak Tree and The Squirrel”.

A Man is the oak tree and a woman is the squirrel.

An Oak tree is strong and sturdy tree. It doesn’t easily move. It stays centered and present to the moment. Sometimes the sun shines and sometimes the rain pours, yet the oak tree remains the same.

One day a squirrel comes by. It’s interested in the tree. So it runs up on the tree. It might jump from branches to branches. This is all to see if it can effect the tree. It wants to be sure that the tree is strong enough to handle the squirrel and any adversity that comes it way. It wants to make sure that when a storm comes that the tree won’t fall and it with it. It wants to make sure it can become it’s permanent resident where it can feel safe and enjoy its life.

A woman will test a man. A woman will throw tantrums at you and try to make you react to her. This is natural. She’s just testing you as a Man to see if you can handle her or any future adversity. You as a Man need to be strong. Be emotionally unaffected by her silly test. You need to stay strong and remain calm. You need to have confidence that you can handle her without breaking a sweat. Only then will you attract her. Only then will you be able to allow her true self to come out. She won’t let her true self out in front of weak men.

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